The experts on these things say there are five love ‘languages’ - five main ways people naturally show, and accept love, from people around them. A lot of you will know this already, but to keep it simple, they are: time, words, service, touch, and receiving gifts.
For some reason, Christmas seems to be set up for the gifts people. I sometimes think it would be nice to have an annual festival for each of the other love languages too, but then I imagine being invited to ‘Hugfest 2019’ and I realise it could get complicated.
Still, while the gift-givers are in their element from November onwards, us time, service, words, and tactile types have to go along with the flow and do our best every year.
30,000 steps around town and I am done, though typically nervous and unsure of my selections for my folks. Some of them are excellent gift-givers, and the pressure is on in a way some nice words in a card (my primary language) might not cover, should I have misfired.
Speaking of tactile contact, town is packed. I squeezed through queues of people today, apologising as I went. I constantly had to turn, or nose a shelf to let other people by behind me. There are London-levels of overcrowding out there, and some of the queues snake round the shops in such convoluted ways that it makes browsing almost impossible.
Well. Maybe there’s an opportunity to be strategic. If even our personalities tell us that we all prefer to transmit and receive love differently, it could be a great opportunity to spend time hanging out with people, being encouraging, giving someone a hug, or even offering to do something you don’t want to do. And all that on top of the decided art of giving and receiving presents. After all, the wise men travelled, they knelt, they worshipped and they played a part in the story. And we never found out what happened to the gold, the frankincense or the myrrh, did we?
Anyway, I’d better go home and let the festive season begin, as well it might, with a glass of Ribena, and a viewing of a Christmas movie to celebrate.
See you all at Hugfest.
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