Saturday, 12 August 2017

I LEAVE A LEAVING DO

"I'm cool, I'm calm, I'm confident, I'm awesome," I whispered to myself, over and over. A summery breeze whistled down the street and ruffled my shirt sleeves. "I'm cool, I'm calm, I'm confident, I'm awesome..."

"I've only seen you in the pub once before," had said Nell earlier, "and you were really uncomfortable." She laughed. I couldn't disagree - that was the lunchtime that the 'banter' had looped out of control and I had had to leave. For some reason, I thought Joe's leaving do would be a bit different.

"I'm cool, I'm calm, I'm confident, I'm awes.... hey Ant!" Ant crossed the road and we arrived at The Oakford just in time to see a crowd of children fish ID cards out of their pockets.

What Joe's leaving do actually turned out to be (and it was nothing less than predictable) was a kind of experiment in social awkwardness, and not just for me. I arrived at the point where tipsy is just on the turn, and the fog of group-inebriation is slowly settling. You can always tell this because it's when people are still normal enough to realise that what they just said was a little too loose. I stood next to Mischa, coke in hand, chatting about writing.

"Do you like blogging?" he asked.

"Sure!" I said, smiling.

"What do you blog about?"

"Me, mostly!" I said above the background chatter. A neat-haired young man with bronzed muscles under a crisp white shirt pushed between us with two tall Peronis.

"Yes, it's more of a personal diary," I went on.

Is Peronis the plural of Peroni? I was wondering silently. Should it be PeroniePeronii?

"Oh, I wouldn't be interested in that," said Mischa, sipping his drink and looking away.

Fair enough, I thought.

Social awkwardness. I looked around me, and all I saw was insecurity. It was written behind the plastered smiles and the make-up: the entire place was packed with kids looking like grown-ups, desperately trying to fit into the world of pretend adulthood. It made me sad for a moment.

Oz arrived and dragged everyone off to O'Neill's so he could watch the Arsenal match. There, I talked to Dimitrios for a while about football as though I knew at least something about it, then got myself out of another tricky and embarrassing drunken conversation.

'WHY DO I GO TO THESE THINGS?' I messaged Sammy.

Everyone else was transfixed by the match, so I decided to wish Joe the best of adventures in his new job (he won't remember that conversation) and then I slipped out the back of O'Neill's, and headed for the train station. I doubt anyone else even saw me go.

'Just leave if you don't like it,' replied Sammy. Good plan, I thought, strolling into the station.

Then Emmie told me that Sammy was on the way to hers... so I planned out how to get there, intending to at least round-off my evening with people I'm genuinely close to.

Work is a funny collection of people. I can't say I'd choose to be friends with lots of them - nor they with the novel-writing, quiet, unfunny weirdo who writes documentation for them. I think next time I will skip the leaving do and stick to scribing a platitude in the Card of Many Signatures.

After the train home and the car to Emmie's, I arrived feeling over-tired but also relieved I was somewhere comfortable, friendly and familiar. I smiled as I climbed the steps to Emmie's flat.

"I'm cool, I'm calm, I'm confident, I'm awesome," I chuckled to myself.

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