Sometimes people just say things. It happened to me today! I was left thinking, you didn’t need to say that; there was no reason for it, and come on, nobody wins! It would have been better if you’d kept it to yourself to be honest.
Didn’t say any of that.
I suppose the most generous explanation is to say that those people are just blurters, external processors who see something and say it before the brain has kicked in - like a sort of reflex action:
“Ooh you’re tall!” or “My, you look tired” or some such commentary. That wasn’t what happened to me though - not those things today. It’ll be an odd day when someone remarks on how tall I am, given I’m about six inches shorter than average. Though, I confess I do look tired.
I’m not a verbal processor, so admittedly it’s harder for me to understand why this kind of thing happens. The only thing I think the blurters could do with is the ‘after’ filter - the bit of thinking that kicks in afterwards and questions whether the thing now hanging in the ether was actually worth saying, and then to find an apology if one is required.
By the way I’m not immune from it. I know I do it, even if it’s rare. My trouble is probably not saying enough and appearing rude by not responding. Plus I think too much of course.
But you know this, I reckon.
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